There's a security guard at work that I'm secretly in love with. We aren't allowed to fraternize. It was love at first sight for me. Sometimes I will catch him looking at me and his gaze will linger a little longer than necessary. We barely talk, and neither of us has mentioned feelings, it would mean termination on the spot. Is there any way for me to get closer to him without risking my job?
Does your current job offer you a path that will lead to a meaningful and fulfilling career? Do you see a future with this man?
If the answer to either of these questions is “yes,” choose that path.
Sneaking around will make both situations suffer, due to a shortage of commitment, communication, and openness. I always say, “if a relationship starts with lies, it will probably end with them too.”
However, if that’s not what you wanted to hear: Talk to him. Your job will be fine. The relationship will be great. Love conquers all.